Saying “I love you” is essential, but please allow me to pass along three things women love hearing nearly as much. If you’re like most men, you’ve probably hit a “relationship speed bump” or two on your journey through life.
Learning these three phrases and knowing when to say them sincerely, however, will make the road ahead much more enjoyable and a whole lot smoother.
I was born in Wisconsin, in the heart of the flatlands, and never tired of the mountains’ majesties of the American west. We were winding up our vacation, enjoying the drive through the spacious plateaus of southern Oregon. After a number of high desert adventures we were ready to put it on cruise control. Little did we suspect that we were about to fall through the proverbial looking glass.
People come up with any number of reasons for not asking for assistance: “I don’t want to bother anyone;” “I’m not worthy of help (love);” “I can do it myself,” etc. But, for the most part, people just forget to ask.
Pichaya and I have learned that Divine Spirit, Spirit, or “the Universe,” call it what you like, won’t interfere in our lives unless we ask.
Self-awareness is often described as the cornerstone of personal development and growth. It is the ability to objectively observe and understand your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and motivations.
Developing self-awareness (also known as mindfulness) is a journey that can lead to profound self-discovery and transformation. One of the most significant benefits of self-awareness is the ability to uncover and define your core values. Knowing your core values can serve as invaluable guidelines for setting and achieving meaningful goals in your life.
Have you ever believed something but weren’t really sure how much you believed it? Tests are a natural part of life. They give us a chance to put our beliefs on the line and see if they really have meaning.
For a few years before my beliefs were tested, I had practiced singing a sacred mantra called HU, an ancient word for God. I often sang it in contemplation or when problems came my way. I had read accounts of the HU doing phenomenal things for others, and I believed in its power, or at least I thought I did. It’s funny how easy it is to say you believe in the HU and casually practice it, and how difficult it is to totally rely upon it for survival.
Our dear friend, Anne, wrote this poem called “The Flame.” It was inspired by a quote from a book called The Slow Burning Love for God: “The slow burning, long-lasting love for God will lead us home—eventually. The turning points of change, which are the tests of purification, bring balance and open the heart to more love.”1
For forty some years I’d wandered in a half-awake, half-slumber state of consciousness all the while wondering why life had to be so hard and unjust. Over time, my collective experiences had left me a few grains of understanding.
Today, I’ve accumulated enough grains of knowledge to maybe fill a small bucket. And who knows, come tomorrow I may need a larger container. But simply storing these grains of wisdom does little good unless sharing what has been learned by one’s endeavors. And yet, for all that such renderings invoke, there are moments when only the poetic voice speaks to what is truly in one’s heart and Soul.
On Easter weekend 2020 our small town was filled with tension as the government placed restrictions on the activities of daily living. Many people had stopped going out to work, shop, or exercise. They holed up in their homes, venturing out only for walks and a little fresh air. People didn’t know what to do. What was safe? What was kind to others?
I enjoy connecting with people in a store or on the street to share a smile, a joke, or an uplifting story, and most important, a little love. How could I reach out to people when everyone nervously stayed at arm’s length? One approach bubbled up spontaneously and blossomed over time.
